tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4230137143430251965.post4299515383617376171..comments2023-05-08T08:22:14.872-04:00Comments on The McGregor Journey: Do I Look Like You Mommy?The Journeyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12525689244564970063noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4230137143430251965.post-28743501648514731252010-10-06T13:24:46.891-04:002010-10-06T13:24:46.891-04:00Such a great post. We are having these same conver...Such a great post. We are having these same conversations with Birhanu. He's always comparing himself to us and the new babies.Brookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10377328530173197335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4230137143430251965.post-65060777540504176072010-10-03T17:56:27.460-04:002010-10-03T17:56:27.460-04:00Q began talking about wanting to be my color at ar...Q began talking about wanting to be my color at around 3 years old. He was in daycare and he often got "how come you don't look like your mom?" Of course, he looks like his father but that didn't seem to matter. Interestingly, our daycare worker said she had never had a biracial child with a black mom talk about wanting to be white, but she had other biracial children with white moms that wanted to be white.<br /><br />For us (I think it's different for each and every family - no consistency that I've found) from 3 to 5 years old was a constant talk about skin color. There was a small period where he was furious with 'God' for being brown. This was completely devastating for me and I don't think I responded well. By 5 yo he seemed to be more happy being brown skinned. He still talked about skin color a great deal but he seemed to be happy with who he was. Now, at almost 8 he's proud of who he is. Difference, is just that, difference. <br /><br />It was rough for me, but I don't think he remembers any of it. Who's to say. My husband, who is black had an easier time of it. He'll be fine, he kept saying. <br />Easy for him to say i would think.<br /><br />3 years old is so glorious. I miss it. But my how the world does start to make an impression on their sweet minds.knhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01612658633007520397noreply@blogger.com