April 6, 2008

Adoption Is Not:

  1. Easy: Dossier preparation falls somewhere between inventing a new energy source and performing your own kidney transplant.
  2. Fast: 6 months of dossier prep + 6 months to 4 YEARS wait time = you do the math.
  3. Certain: Expected wait times can balloon from 6 months to 4 years at the drop of a hat and entire programs can be suspended with little notice. Yes, YEARS into the process you can be told that the process is no longer possible.
  4. Plan B: Please, do not make assumptions, chances are you're incorrect.
  5. An obligation: Our obligation is to love.
Adoption is: A personal and spiritually led decision that my husband and I made to embrace family in all forms, embrace brotherhood as nature intended, and embrace love as God intended. It's amazing, excruciating, beautiful, painful, enlightening and shattering. It's love, and we're in it for the long run.


12 comments:

Gretchen Magruder said...

This is a beautiful summary of the experience so far for us!

QB said...

Amen! Well said.

Amanda said...

Amen!

Jen said...

wow, I love your description of what adoption is.
beautiful!

Cloverland Farm said...

this is the best post ever. i'm going to link to it.

Dan, Misty & Ashar said...

I really love this post. So elequently and accurately put. Can I post this on my site and link to yours? Um...6 years? You're scaring me girl!

LISA said...

I Love this post

Liesl said...

Love this post!! Amazingly well-said...

Sandi said...

Great post. :)

los cazadores said...

I think you speak for us all... :)

Cindy

Stacie said...

Very well said!

Rebecca said...

I love this post! Very well said! Exactly everything we are thinking/feeling...